I was trying to bang a flakey girl taking forever to respond. I asked my friend what to do. Then I thought: "Is she asking her friend how to get with me?" Of course not. Even treating me poorly, I chased her. Even barely encouraging me, I wanted her bad. It's human nature. But she wasn't thinking about me like I was thinking about her. For marriage prospects, this dynamic foreshadows long-term relationship problems where one partner invests significantly more than the other creating resentment.

If you eavesdrop on girls you hear them talk about flaky guys. Guys not calling. Putting in minimum work. Not giving notice then canceling last minute. Fucking then leaving within minutes. You think that guy stresses over the girl? Asks friends for help? No. He's too busy working other girls. He doesn't care about any. He has no attachments. With no attachments he doesn't do pathetic, desperate, needy shit that 95% of guys do. She wants him more because he wants her less.

I realized I had to BE THAT GUY, not the guy who plots and tries and talks about what to do next. Because the moment you have to try is the moment you care. The moment you care is the moment she has you. All you'll have is your hand waiting for the phone to ring. So I stopped trying. Stopped caring. Stopped planning. Started working other girls. For marriage prospects, this mindset prevents the neediness that ultimately destroys relationships through constant pursuit and validation seeking.

Detachment is freedom. When you don't care, you're free to do what you want. When you don't attach to outcomes, you're free from anxiety. When you don't need her validation, you're free from desperation. This freedom is attractive because women sense it immediately. She knows when a man is chasing versus when he's choosing. For marriage, maintaining some detachment and independence prevents the codependency and enmeshment that suffocates long-term relationships over years of constant togethernes